Proverbs 27: King James Bible
A Contentious Woman – Daily Devotion of Proverbs chapter twenty seven, Verses 15-16
15 A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike. 16 Whosoever hideth her hideth the wind, and the ointment of his right hand, which bewrayeth itself.
Daily Inspiration from These Verses – A Contentious Woman
Throughout the pages of Proverbs, we’ve encountered all kinds of different men and women. Some harboring traits we’d consider favorable, others not so much. The verses above bring up a contentious woman.
Have you ever lived in a home that suffered a leaky roof? I have. There’s a host of different problems that can come if a leaky roof is left alone. Much of the time (as those who live in flood prone areas are aware) whatever damage the leaks may cause, can grow in severity unless removed completely. Usually a dangerous type of mold will eventually grow and effect people’s health.
Putting all that aside, when you’re in the house listening to the drops coming from areas that you’d rather not hear them come from, it is extra annoying and concerning. Annoying because your house is practicing a form of Chinese water torture on you which is designed to remove any peace from you. Followed up with concerning due to the foreknowledge of future structural headaches as listed above, or perhaps ruining other stuff that might wind up in its way (electronics, etc…).
Also above, the Lord isn’t just talking about a leaky roof on a rainy day, but a very rainy day. It’s pouring out, causing the leaks to be more persistent and annoying. The contentious woman is being described in this light, and wind up being especially grievous to the man that is simply seeking peace.
The contentious woman will remove peace from the mind of a man, and can cause damage in other areas of a man’s life, just as a leaky roof can cause damage to sheet-rock, insulation and whatever else is effected by it.
What verse 15 is telling us, is that to attempt to change this behavior is like catching the wind, or grasping at oil with your right hand. You may get oil on your hand, but you’ll not have caught it. Putting her away is just like saying to keep her out of the eyes of others, so as to not create even more problems with a dash of humiliation to include to it.
The last sentence makes sense because a contentious person needs no good reason at all to be that way, and they look for anything that they can stir something up over. So, if you’ve got a couple where the woman is contentious and the guy isn’t, and they need to go do something together, more often than not the guy is suffering from a bellyache, hoping to fizzle out any chances of contention before they start.
As the Lord says this is just like hiding the wind, good luck with that. When you decide to form a relationship with someone, you can’t expect that other person to change their ways on your account. Perhaps there are circumstances where these ways are derived because of our account?
Regardless, we can’t catch the wind, take oil by the hand and carry it around, it’s impossible. But the Lord can. But perhaps instead of complaining to the Father of how much we’re grieved by those who are causing contention around us or directed toward us, we can work with the Father to be strengthened and given peace of mind and heart despite these things.
He can give us peace where there is no physical options to get peace. He can create calm where there is no calm. He can give us strength when we are at our weakest. To suffer with a contentious person without the Father’s involvement is as water torture. To suffer with a contentious person with the Father’s involvement turns into a spiritual training program.
Related New Testament Scripture
Romans 2: King James Bible
7 To them who by patient continuance in well doing seek for glory and honor and immortality, eternal life: 8 But unto them that are contentious, and do not obey the truth, but obey unrighteousness, indignation and wrath, 9 Tribulation and anguish, upon every soul of man that doeth evil, of the Jew first, and also of the Gentile;
Romans 13: King James Bible
13 Let us walk honestly, as in the day; not in rioting and drunkenness, not in chambering and wantonness, not in strife and envying.
2 Corinthians 6: King James Bible
3 Giving no offence in any thing, that the ministry be not blamed: 4 But in all things approving ourselves as the ministers of God, in much patience, in afflictions, in necessities, in distresses, 5 In stripes, in imprisonments, in tumults, in labors, in watching, in fasting;
6 By pureness, by knowledge, by long suffering, by kindness, by the Holy Ghost, by love unfeigned, 7 By the word of truth, by the power of God, by the armor of righteousness on the right hand and on the left,
8 By honor and dishonor, by evil report and good report: as deceivers, and yet true; 9 As unknown, and yet well known; as dying, and, behold, we live; as chastened, and not killed; 10 As sorrowful, yet always rejoicing; as poor, yet making many rich; as having nothing, and yet possessing all things.
Thank you for your Word, and for the examples that you give us to help us understand the point you’re trying to make. Please help us all to have the presence of mind, to use times of contention as an exercise of spiritual growth, building our character and strengthening our resolve in you. Rather than the alternative, which is to be broken down and driven into stress, or various forms of despair and robbed of peace. In whatever the situation, help us learn from it as your will would have it. In the name of the Lord Jesus Christ we pray.
When thrust into a situation as with a contentious woman, do you allow it to get the best of you?