Proverbs 20: King James Bible
Father and Mother – Daily Devotion of Proverbs chapter twenty, Verses 20-21
20 Whoso curseth his father or his mother, his lamp shall be put out in obscure darkness. 21 An inheritance may be gotten hastily at the beginning; but the end thereof shall not be blessed.
Daily Inspiration from These Verses – Father and Mother
The Lord has had much to say about how we treat our parents. And the thing of it is, at times he doesn’t specify any age. Be you a child or an adult, the Lord wants you to have a certain respect for your parents. The verse above says nothing to age, but uses a broad brush that we can call “whoso.”
It means enough to the Lord, that he included it as one of the greatest commandments, given to Moses on Mount Sinai. It is also the commandment with a blessing and a promise, “so it will go well with thee.”
Deuteronomy 5: King James Bible
16 Honor thy father and thy mother, as the Lord thy God hath commanded thee; that thy days may be prolonged, and that it may go well with thee, in the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.
But as we have discovered throughout these devotionals, when the Lord offers a promise of blessing for obedience, there is also a promise of punishment or just simple consequences for being disobedient. The verse from Proverbs above, is evidence of the flip side to the promise given in Deuteronomy.
If you honor your father and mother, your days will be prolonged and it will go well with you. If you curse your father and mother, your lamp will be put out in obscure darkness.
As morality has deteriorated over time, there are more and more people who take issue with being obedient to this commandment. There are people who have legitimate reasons to take umbrage, such as those who have been abused by parents in a slew of different ways. Well, there needs to be an understanding here.
We are not called to honor our father and mother for their benefit. The Lord didn’t say to honor them because they are so good. But rather, so that it will go well with you. Forgiveness is a strange thing. When we forgive someone who hurt us, not only does it release us from the bondage of that hurt, but it also heaps (either spiritual or figurative) coals over their heads.
The Lord isn’t commanding for us to honor them for their sake, but for our own. He knows how flawed parents can be, just as well as he knows all too well how flawed we are.
The ways of the Father are more often than not counter intuitive. We don’t want to forgive someone who hurts us, because we don’t want to give them a sense that everything is okay with whatever they did. Typically, those who we need to forgive the most, are those who deserve it the least.
The flesh wants to be satisfied with all of the feelings that we feel from not forgiving. The Lord says to let it go and forgive them, as your Father in Heaven has forgiven you. It’s not a thing between you and the forgiven, but a thing between you and the Lord.
So if you find it difficult to comprehend honoring your father and mother because they did whatever they did, or do whatever they do, realize one thing… It isn’t for them, but for you. And it may not make for a hill of beans in the flesh, but spiritually, you’ve just turned a page, and gotten all the more closer to the Father.
Related New Testament Scripture
Matthew 6: King James Bible
14 For if ye forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you:
Mark 11: King James Bible
24 Therefore I say unto you, What things soever ye desire, when ye pray, believe that ye receive them, and ye shall have them. 25 And when ye stand praying, forgive, if ye have ought against any: that your Father also which is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses. 26 But if ye do not forgive, neither will your Father which is in heaven forgive your trespasses.
Romans 12: King James Bible
19 Dearly beloved, avenge not yourselves, but rather give place unto wrath: for it is written, Vengeance is mine; I will repay, saith the Lord. 20 Therefore if thine enemy hunger, feed him; if he thirst, give him drink: for in so doing thou shalt heap coals of fire on his head. 21 Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.
Ephesians 6: King James Bible
6 Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right. 2 Honor thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise; 3 That it may be well with thee, and thou mayest live long on the earth.
Thank you for your willingness to give us insight for your heart toward all of us. Thank you for being the perfect parent, along with all the other accolades that we could use to describe your care for our lives. You have an ability that is far greater than our own to forgive, were it not so, we’d all have been wiped out long ago. Teach us Lord to be forgiving in the way that pleases you the most, and if we harbor anything against our father and mother, teach us, and lead us into forgiveness. This we pray in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ.
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