Proverbs 31: King James Bible
The Law of Kindness – Daily Devotion of Proverbs chapter thirty one, Verse 26
26 She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.
Daily Inspiration from This Verse – The Law of Kindness
Before we take a look at the law of kindness, let’s talk for a moment about the matters discussed in the first half of this verse.
Wisdom and Talking
One of the personal obstacles I’ve faced my whole life, is knowing when to keep my mouth shut, or when to open it up. Is there anyone who can relate to this? Tell me about it down below in the comments.
Because of this, I might take the first half of this verse a little differently than others. What I mean is, it could be understood that to open your mouth with wisdom would signify that you’re speaking with wisdom.
In other words, using wise words, or talking about something wisely rather than being foolish about something. Sure, this could be rightly interpreted.
But as aforementioned, I see it differently.
It isn’t saying that she’s being wise with her words, in fact, matters of the tongue are discussed in the second half of this verse. In her tongue is the law of kindness.
That’s got to do with the nature of the things she’s saying. I don’t believe that speech itself is what’s being focused on as far as opening her mouth is concerned.
I would propose that she’s using wisdom to discern when it’s best to either keep her mouth open or shut. She isn’t blabbing on and on about every little thing that crosses her mind.
Her words are more potent. Not just because of what comes out of her mouth, but because of when. Sometimes you need to know when to hold’em, and know when to fold’em. This requires wisdom, and for some, extreme self control.
Being Kind with Words
First of all, what does this verse mean when it refers to the “law of kindness?” Well, the word “law” in Hebrew is the word “Torah.” Most of us will recognize that the books of Moses are known as the Torah.
It’s fair to make the correlation, that the Torah (the first five books of the Bible) is what’s being referred to here. Some people may laugh at the idea of the laws of God being those of kindness.
To those people, I would suggest a deep study into spiritual matters, and an understanding into why the Lord does things. But I digress…
The second half of this verse concentrates on the substance of what’s coming out of her mouth. Just as it takes wisdom to know when you should open your mouth, wisdom is required behind what comes out.
Being kind is easier for some than it is for others. Or some people might have a kind heart, but give off the appearance of being unkind. For example, a big biker kind of guy that is tough as nails, scary to look at, but is a marshmallow inside.
If this guy doesn’t share the contents of his heart, his kindness or gentle nature is out-spoken by his threatening appearance.
On the other hand, some people can be kind to a fault, and cross the threshold into being enablers for bad behavior. In this wicked and fallen world, being kind to the point of being a push over won’t prevent you from being pushed over, but will promote it.
There is a time for every season, and also a time to be kind with your words, and a time to refrain from kind words in order to show greater acts of kindness. Yeah, I know that doesn’t look like it makes sense, but it will.
Verbal Jujitsu – When Kindness is an Art Form
I can’t understate the wisdom that is required when it comes down to speaking in kindness. There are some comfortable circumstances where it comes easily.
The art of it comes into play when it’s not so easy or when it’s uncomfortable. Anybody who has taken part in training someone for a new position might have experienced this first hand.
What about discipline? This is probably the most hated form of kindness on the planet. Well, at least hated at the time. Ask any child whose parents are doing well in the discipline department. Nobody likes it while it’s going on.
But it’s done to yield a good result, and in so doing, shows kindness and care between the one being disciplined and the one who is dealing it out. We think of this in physical terms, but it is every bit as important as it relates to words.
Another form of kindness that is becoming increasingly rare, is being kind in opposition. These days when people should be opponents, they instead behave as enemies. There should be a difference between the tow, and at the heart of that difference is either kindness, or being void of kindness.
Being skilled in the law of kindness requires to be well versed in the law itself. Remove that, and opponents can quickly turn into enemies.
But at the end of the day, those who maintain a level of kindness will be rewarded for doing so, and the one who lacks in this department will be scorned. This is the power of kindness when mingled with wisdom.
Jesus gave us a multi-layered display of kindness through his earthly ministry. He traded kindness for kindness, dished it out to those who didn’t deserve it, yet stood his ground against those who sought to trip him up or rebuke him.
He knew who he needed to be kind towards, and when to open his mouth wisely after discerning a situation. My first thoughts go toward the woman caught in the act of adultery, and brought before him.
He didn’t instantly open his mouth, but waited for wisdom to catch up with the situation. You may recall that he sat and scribbled in the dirt for a little while. Personally, I believe that he was awaiting instructions from the Father, which is the ultimate form of opening one’s mouth with wisdom.
In a kind and subtle way, he was harsh with the accusers, while simultaneously showing kindness toward the woman that was dragged before him, without giving approval toward her behavior.
That my friends, is what I’d call a master in the art of kindness. How much emphasis do we as Saints place in this arena?
Kindness no matter the form, benefits all parties involved when mingled with wisdom and an understanding of the Word of the Lord.
Related New Testament Scripture
Luke 6: King James Bible
35 But love ye your enemies, and do good, and lend, hoping for nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of the Highest: for he is kind unto the unthankful and to the evil.
John 8: King James Bible
3 And the scribes and Pharisees brought unto him a woman taken in adultery; and when they had set her in the midst, 4 They say unto him, Master, this woman was taken in adultery, in the very act.
5 Now Moses in the law commanded us, that such should be stoned: but what sayest thou? 6 This they said, tempting him, that they might have to accuse him. But Jesus stooped down, and with his finger wrote on the ground, as though he heard them not.
7 So when they continued asking him, he lifted up himself, and said unto them, He that is without sin among you, let him first cast a stone at her. 8 And again he stooped down, and wrote on the ground.
9 And they which heard it, being convicted by their own conscience, went out one by one, beginning at the eldest, even unto the last: and Jesus was left alone, and the woman standing in the midst.
10 When Jesus had lifted up himself, and saw none but the woman, he said unto her, Woman, where are those thine accusers? hath no man condemned thee? 11 She said, No man, Lord. And Jesus said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go, and sin no more.
Romans 12: King James Bible
9 Let love be without dissimulation. Abhor that which is evil; cleave to that which is good. 10 Be kindly affectioned one to another with brotherly love; in honor preferring one another;
11 Not slothful in business; fervent in spirit; serving the Lord; 12 Rejoicing in hope; patient in tribulation; continuing instant in prayer; 13 Distributing to the necessity of saints; given to hospitality.
Ephesians 4: King James Bible
32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
Colossians 3: King James Bible
12 Put on therefore, as the elect of God, holy and beloved, bowels of mercies, kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; 13 Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.
Thank you for your Word, and for all of your wonderful traits. Each are a blessing to us, and give us hope. Lord, help us to master the art of kindness through your Spirit and your wisdom. Teach us to be every bit as effective in using the law of kindness with everyone we deal with, as the Lord Jesus is himself. May we have this as a tool at our disposal to win others to you, or at the least be a blessing to those around us. This we pray in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ.
Have you not given practice to the law of kindness?
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